This weekend, we went to Hay on Wye to celebrate the fact that we haven't managed to kill each other in that time, despite bike related arguments and other traumas, and two adorable if rather exhausting small girls. We've had a lovely five years, and I hope that we'll have many more. It doesn't really seem fair that we can marry and celebrate being husband and wife when other people don't have that right. My friend Jon wrote this about equal marriage and Scotland calling civil partnerships, marriages.
Does what happened to me 5 years ago count for less if two men can get married and call each other husband? Is my marriage any less stable and happy if two women can marry each other in a registry office or a church? Of course it isn't, and anyone who says that it is being ridiculous. The church in which we were married is fairly liberal and accepting - one of the church wardens is in a long partnership with another man and the curate's son is gay. I haven't yet asked the vicar about the his views, but I'm pretty sure that they are not in line with the hierarchy; I know he has mellowed greatly during the last 20 years or so as Rector of Hanwell.
In any case, marriage is a deep and meaningful thing, and why should I be allowed to marry when others aren't? It's not just for the procreation of children, it's not just about promoting faith, it's about two people's public declaration of a private intention.
So happy anniversary darling, and here's to the next 5 years.